During the event you will see a chef working in unison with a sommelier (wine expert). The meal is cooked in your presence while special emphasis goes into the presentation.

I have below a menu from a neighborhood soiree I attended, the price was $30 per person or $50 per couple. As you can tell, I try to find every reason or occasion to get romantic.

I have seen prices on these affairs run from $30 to the extravagant $175 per person. Look out for those unscrupulous providers who offer four to six courses with three being just “fluff”; one example was grilled head of lettuce!

Menu:

• Fried Oysters with Ancho-Honey BBQ

• • Chanson Sparkling Pinot Noir Brut

• Portabella Ravioli with grilled asparagus and wild mushroom

• • Chandon Pinot Noir

• Veal sweetbreads with braised endive, apple wood smoked bacon and veal glace

• • Gouguenheim Malbec

• Flat iron steak with faro and carrot ketchup.

• • Newton Cabernet Sauvignon

As social and networking event these ranks fairly high, but as romantic affairs, I believe you have the ability to pull this off with some effort. Maybe the menu will not have the intricacy and fanciness of the one above, just prepare items you know how to make successfully.

Buy a good selection of wines, prepare to engage your guest(s) in deeply engrossing conversations about food and the wines.

Then set the stage to display your repertoire and kitchen skills; both creative and technical, talk it up!

This tasting menu is essentially culinary samples served plate after plate, it is both a cerebral and culinary delight.

This experience is best suited for lovers of good food and discovery of tantalizing wines. On the other hand, if you’re a novice this could be the start of a brand new skill, I am sure the more you practice the better you become.

Sexy does, Sexy says, Sexy is communication. Here is a wonderful and free sexy suggestion for you; why not arrange a boudoir photo session with your partner?

You invested in the top of the line Nikon, Olympus or Canon DSLR camera, complete with storage case.  At the salesman’s suggestion, you also bought the tripod, to take the best pictures, and to top it all off, you added the professional flash and expensive panoramic lens.

Now all you need is to take pictures… but when was the last time that actually happened?

Do I have a new assignment for you “Mr. Guy With The Expensive Camera!” In today’s love scene, you’re the professional photographer and your task is to capture the image of the very voluptuous and famous lingerie model… played by your wife!

This calls for your “A-Game!”  This is no time for sweaty palms or fumbling with equipment!  When the model makes her appearance, you must be focused and in command.

BOUDOIR photography, is the new in gift, “brides-to-be” are using to heighten the anticipation and drama before the big day and honeymoon night.

According to the new Orlando Wedding magazine, “husbands-to-be” are getting a teaser in the form of a photo-book, or portfolio on the night before they have her legally forever. Some newlywed couples are also using this as a personalized gift to each other.

Here’s how it works.  At the bridal shower or at a “girls only” party prior, a professional photographer is hired for a lingerie photo session. Called “implied nudity”, the pictures are tasteful and seductive.  A keep-sake to cherish for years to come.

Back to you, “Mr. Guy With The Expensive Camera.”  I’m suggesting you invite that same model, to the “studio” before the wedding, after the wedding, and just about every time she gets a new piece of lingerie.

To ensure that the model is comfortable and will in fact return, you have to prepare the studio by injecting an air of flirtatious excitement: music must be sexy and sophisticated – say Sinatra or Buble.

The lighting needs to be in cohesion with the camera. Please test before the model gets there!

The props must be in place: try anything furry or silky.  Ice is nice, and for some reason I’m thinking BUBBLE BATH!

Any professional photographer worth his salt would have champagne on ice and hors d’oeuvres on a platter for his subject to enjoy.

Also be very cautious where you print your pictures, you do not want to have your treasured picture showing up on some obscene website.

Use a “real” professional photographer if you’re feeling overwhelmed.  What a great gift that would be to her from you!

You will find genuine photo-books and portfolios at any photographer’s supply store.

Be the consummate gentleman and professiona.  Please keep that black t-shirt tucked into your black pants until the photo session ends…….or at least try to.

A Good Kisser DON’Ts:

1. Breath check, it goes without saying.
2. Saliva, at all cost avoid the excess salivation your mouth automatically produces, when tasting something delicious. Be prepared before you approach her. Don’t go dry mouth but don’t be slobby and have saliva draining down the side of your mouth.
3. Bites, a playful nibble here and there, hmm Ok, but not at first and definitely don’t bite hard enough to leave a mark.
4. The hard kisser, if your mouth is tired after kissing, then imagine what her mouth must feel like, you are not wrestling! Don’t stick your tongue too far in her mouth. Be firm but not overly aggressive.
5. The timing, approach her unexpectedly when she has a minute for passion. Feel her body, she will tell you if she needs you to squeeze her closer or start pulling away. Don’t end it abruptly like an amatorius lizard.

A Good Kisser DOs:

1. Whisper, sweet words between kisses, it is very sensual.
2. Use your tongue, to touch hers, gently at first then explorer her lips before sucking – gently on her tongue.
3. Look her straight in the eyes, she might close hers but when they open, yours should be looking right at her.
4. Use your hands, give her a gentle back rub, play with her hair or cup her butt.
5. Kiss her like that often, not because you’ve been married 25 years, she still needs to be french kissed.

Speak to any true born Jamaican, 25 years and older for 5 minutes, and your entire medical history will be diagnosed, and in addition they will make strong recommendation to which “bush medication” to take to correct any bedroom problems you might be experiencing. Forget Cialis & Viagra!

Baba Roots, Front End Lifter, Chainy Root, Search-Mi-Heart, Dandelion, Bloodwiss, Sarsapilla, Irish Moss, Strong Back, Guinness & Sour Sop….The names are exotic, but the purpose, they were intended for is erotic!

These formulas are aphrodisiacs, sworn to “work” by the natives, if taken at the appropriate time before a “mission”.

Jamaicans have been exporting these indigenous natural remedies to the world; along with the culture that gave us Bob Marley who told us to turn our “ Lights Down Low” and Shabba Ranks’ throbbing “Mr. Lover Man”.

Stella went to get her groove back; now there’s a woman who knew what she wanted!
After-all Jamaica is the premier honeymoon destination of choice for many a tourist from North America , Europe and Asia.

When you go choose Montego Bay (Mobay), Ocho Rios (Ochi) or the most compelling location of them all Negril. Whether you’re staying in an all-inclusive or european plan (plan as you go) remember to try to absorb as much of the local culture as much as you can.

“One love” has become Jamaica’s slogan – in more ways than one!

Even the food is spicy and exciting to the taste buds. It seems there is a vibe in Jamaica that works to stimulate your bodies, minds and souls. What can I say, the truth is in the tasting so be it a perpetual romance, a one night stand or a passion for adventure, something special awaits you on the island for Lovers.
Go to Jamaica and feel alright!

Now however ever-so-often and  after the fact, I’ll say something like “that little thing I did really got you turned on huh?”. Or she would repeat an act – a little something, that like the first time she did it made me elevate off the bed.

You know the little things I am talking about; whatever floats your boat. Erotically stimulating and sexually arousing favors such as: bondage, toys, pornography/ erotica, anal sex, role play, masturbation in each others presence and for some fellatio and cunnilingus.

If it is your desire to know everything about your lifelong partner, then everything means everything. I am suggestion a guilt-free weekend for all sexual desires and fantasy.

You reserve the right to refuse any acts which you might find sexually or morally not in tuned with your beliefs, but on this weekend try to place all inhibitions on hold.

Since this is an exposure of each others fantasies and sexuality, some so-intimate and secretive that you’ve never revealed them to anyone, I suggest introducing the stripped down version first, then as the weekend proceeds you can introduce additional features.

Anything once means starting with an open mind and be receptive to new things. Remember what you might find blasé or on the other end of the scale – shocking, might be a source of extreme sensual pleasure for your partner, the person you love.

Therefore reserved your negative and judgmental thoughts and never reveal them. Most people have fantasies and if we were built all the same, how boring would that be?

Maybe after this weekend you could mix in parts of the experience into your special moments together.

Pull a surprise through creativity, you might not like everything you did on Anything Once Weekend, however try to go the extra mile to please your partner.

After-all sex is an experience best served unique. The missionary position is cool for doors, clothing and a pile of books.

As your Romance Planner, I believe that the fun and frisky times should never, here are a few relationship healing and amazing recharge-your-connection tips. Why not start putting them to use tonight?

Create Erotic Anticipation
The days of not knowing when — or if — you’ll sleep together are long gone…and so is that libido-lifting sense of wonder. Well, you can’t go back in time, but you can reignite that excitement. Plan a really hot evening for both of you, but don’t let him in on the details. Build the anticipation by teasing him with hints of what’s to come. Let his imagination work overtime.

Venture Into Unfamiliar Territory
Are their events or fantasies on both your minds that you have not shared? It doesn’t have to be taboo nor anything death defying; just step a little outside your comfort zone. Say, play police and thief, purchase fake uniforms and other paraphernalia for Halloween, or something more innocent such as treat her like a fashion model and pretend that you are just trying to get the first date. ROLE PLAY that stretches out for days!
You’ll be creating great memories together that will become a shared reference point for future reconnecting.

Take The Long Road To Bed
Once you figure out each other’s hot spots and the best way to get the other off, you always tend to take the same (and quickest) route to intimacy, why waste time right? Wrong!

If you want to rev up your lust life, get off the expressway and explore different, more indirect paths. Take it slow, and experiment with different techniques and positions to reawaken sexual curiosity and excitement.
When was the last time you got intimate in the living room fully clothed? or do some heavy flirting while dining at a restaurant? Let’s add a little spice to your life.

Tell her-No Write a letter about her beauty
YEP you’re so create! the old standard is indeed a good one. Whenever in doubt it is always a good idea to drop the “b” word. Beautiful is an adjective that never goes out of style in the girlfriend world. Even throw a baby in there, as in, “Baby you are so beautiful”. The response you are looking for is “Awwww!”, but when you put it all in a hand written letter, BOOYAH!

Tell her that she’s your favorite person in the world
Girlfriends are always in subconscious competition with your best friend, the guys at the office and your cousin who always shows up around Thanksgiving. Let her know that she’s at the top of a very long list and you can be sure she’ll remember that the next time the game is on and she’s watching Grey’s Anatomy.

Use “I couldn’t ask for a better…”
This is a phrase that goes “hand in hand” with point number two. This is your way of saying, “even if God put Adriana Lima in the hot tub, I’d rather be here with you.

Tell her you’d rather be there with her.
As stated previously, it is always a good idea to let your girlfriend know that she is more important than going out with the guys for a beer or watching basketball. Well, maybe not baseball -it’s World Series time – come on boys don’t over do it now.

1. Rub her feet instead of asking her if she wants you to rub her feet. Make it look like you want to do it.
2. Make her dinner one night. Don’t ask her if she wants you to make dinner. Make her dinner before she gets home.
3. Light a candle so that she arrives home to a nice environment instead of coming home to the glaring lights of the television and other things.
4. Send her a text in the middle of the day telling her “I miss your smile from this morning” or “Last night was amazing!” or “The conversation we had last night was great.”
5. Let her have control of the remote control. Don’t monopolize it for a change. Just give it to her and let her actually sit there and enjoying watching one of her shows. Then you can share one of her interests by watching it with her.
6. Offer to iron one of her shirts or take her clothes to the dry cleaner.
7. Clean up the bathroom without being asked. Don’t just sit there and ignore the mess around the toilet. If you know it drives her crazy to see water splashed all around the sink, dry that area after you use it.
8. If you work out together, enjoy it with her instead of rushing through your own workout and then not letting her workout at the same time.
9. Take a shower together, then wash her hair, scrub her back, and give her a spa treatment. Do this and enjoy it!
10. Surprise her by making plans. Tell her, “We’re going out tonight honey.” You can even just go out for a drink or dinner somewhere. It’s taking the initiative that’s important.
BONUS. Call her in the middle of the day and just say hello. Don’t wait for her to call you.